“It never occurred to me that my husband would leave me one day with my two children behind. I always believe he has a profound love for me but he left
Maya happily married the man whom she loved for two years.
“My parents were against love marriage so I ran away with the boy at
Maya could not continue her study as her parents believed that daughters do not need education. So, she sent her husband in the city to continue his studies while she did farming, household chores and looked after children. After taking part in a health training, she started a job if Female Community Health Volunteer (FCHV). Soon, her husband started a job in Dhangadhi. Then her kids moved to Dhangadhi for further studies in
For the next five years, his whereabouts
“I placed all my efforts to find him. In a hope to locate him, I even visited fortune tellers, offered goats and pigs.” They made her believe that he still loves her and will soon return to her. Believing them, she offered almost all her earning from job and farming.
“Although I worked as a health worker, I could not console myself and wept everyday remembering him until I came in contact with WOREC where I
“After psychosocial counseling, I found the real essence of life
As a member of the survivor’s network ‘Agrani’, she now takes lead to support survivors of violence against women in her community.
After the training in bio-intensive farming, they produce fertilizers and pesticides from local resources to grow organic vegetables. She started commercial organic farming and was soon renowned among the local farmers. This had a very positive impact on her living and economic independence, while engagement in training apart from farming was the life turning moment for her.
“I was alone [without husband] at the time of trouble. I raised my children with difficulty however I still eagerly wanted to see him at least once in my life despite knowing he was the reason for my sorrow and pain. To my surprise, I was still expecting him back in the home. He returned after a decade with
Maya who faced an indefinite struggle to find her husband, raise children in the state of the psychosocial stress, now believes in herself and
Maya, a survivor once is now a change-maker who defends the rights of women and inspires other people in her community.